Safe Zone Parenting Fail
Friday 13th January 2023
I wanted to try out something I heard on a parenting podcast. So I said to my kids (aged 5 and 7) â€œIf you guys say â€˜safe zoneâ€™ you can tell me anything and Iâ€™m not allowed to shout or be cross. And if ever you think Iâ€™m being too cross, say â€˜safe zoneâ€™ and I will stop and listen to you.â€
They looked at me thoughtfully, taking this in. Then the 5yo immediately started pelting me with objects, yelling â€œsafe zone!â€ after each attack, like it was a magical loophole granting him amnesty from all wrong-doing. And now I wasnâ€™t even allowed to yell stop. In trying to install a safe zone, I have made myself much less safe.